Last Spring, I was at an academic awards ceremony for my older son, who at the time was completing his junior year in high school. The guest speaker spoke on a variety of topics, one of which was common sense. She asked the audience, “Did you ever notice that these days common sense is not very common?” Now, I have heard this asked before in various places—on television talk shows, from preachers, teachers, and comedians. What I noticed on this occasion was that nearly everybody in the crowd gave a “knowing laugh” to the guest speaker’s question. There were several hundred people in the crowd.
Being in a contemplative mood, a thought came into my mind. Why is everybody laughing? If common sense is so uncommon, then it stands to reason that only a few people should be laughing, that is, those with common sense. Everybody else should either have been squirming in their seats—slightly embarrassed to have their lack of common sense brought to light in public—or nonresponsive, cautious whether or not they would be considered included in the select “common sense club.” But, in fact, everyone was laughing. Why is this?
It seems to me the most plausible explanation is that most people see themselves as part of the small group in society that has common sense, and see others as not possessing it. That is, most people correctly recognize the problem—that there is a lack of common sense shown by many Americans out there today—yet most people feel like they are not part of the problem, but rather among the select few that have it all together. Most people think of themselves as among those who think better, faster, clearer, more practically, more analytically . . . all those things that might go into defining common sense.
This is Exhibit A. Exhibits B, C, and D will follow.
The Road to the RVA Marathon
5 years ago
You've nailed it; most of us definitely feel like we are the select ones who possess the best qualities.
ReplyDeleteBut there's something else at work here; people rarely "think" at all. The quickest and easiest response is to laugh or groan; laughing is far more popular, and it's easy. So the rule is: first laugh, then try to justify why you laughed based on the content of the remark!
ooh oooh! do common courtesy next! (otherwise known as "respect" nowadays).
ReplyDeleteAllen. You are so right. People don't think and laughter is often the first response. I experienced that on a mountain run once. I had been running on the AT for about 5 miles when I came across a hiker. I like to announce my presence before coming upon walkers in the woods when I am running so I said, "How are you doing?" He said, "Could be better." I slowed a bit and looked him in the eyes and said, "Are you ok?" He then went into a strange tirade about how he was living in a sea of human filth and was being held against his will, and on and on with lots of 4 letter words. My first reaction was a little chuckle and then I bolted. What a freak. Anyway, my first reaction was a little chuckle but then I processed that this guy was a whack job and I better just leave the situation.
ReplyDeleteDave. Psychologists have studied this phenomenon where we all think we are the best at something. It is pretty interesting. For instance, driving skill can probably be represented by the Bell Curve. Most of us in the middle somewhere with smaller percentage of bad drivers and a smaller percentage of excellent drivers. Ask 1000 drivers though and the graph will look very lopsided. We can't all be the best drivers. But we think we are.
Can't wait for the next Exhibit.
-Jim R.